Strive To Be The Best Dad

6 Feb

Continued from last week’s discussion on settling as a mediocre parent versus becoming a great parent.

I heard a TED talk by a man who was speaking about what he learned from his experience with a near fatal airplane crash. It was a relatively short talk for TED but impactful. In summary this very successful businessman said he learned, as his plane was minutes from crashing into the water, that he wanted to finish his bucket list; to be nicer to people, to love his family and friends more, and to fix his messes with loved ones. To his surprise in those brief moments another priority rose to the surface of what he believed to be his last thoughts. It was be a great dad, all else second. Why was taking care of his children all of a sudden the single most important thing? He didn’t give a reason he just said it had risen to the top of his life’s priorities.

How many times have we heard someone say “I wish I had spent more time with my kids” or “I hope I will be a better grandparent than I was a parent”? Perhaps you’ve even heard, “I wish I knew then what I know now, I would have been a better dad”. It goes on and on. The point is, we don’t have to wait until we are too old to have more kids, or after we have succeeded in accomplishing a successful material life, or after a near death experience.

It is in our genetic nature to care, we just have to let our natural instincts work and commit. Although this is not easy in our competitive culture, we must remove the layers of worry, fear, and apprehension, and connect to the basic and nature of our core life process- to care for our offspring. It is our first responsibility. So it is not enough to be the best dad you can be, it is simply to be the best dad period. Read, look, feel and commit. Life can be long or life can be short.


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