Seeking Balance as a Dad

1 Feb

{The following blog is part of an ongoing series of thoughts regarding my personal experience with Postpartum Depression.}

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In my book, I discuss building relationships and the amount of work and consciousness that is required. It’s not easy and often requires significant support. I imagine that for many first-time moms the euphoria and exhilaration radically impacts all their immediate and stored emotions.

It is a powerful experience. It makes perfect sense that this would certainly catalyze a major, and likely permanent, emotional change in their system. So much so that mothers would then have to find some way to assimilate. This can be extraordinarily difficult.

Ian and Max

On a considerably lesser level I discovered similar emotional experiences on many occasions. As a young, single dad of two boys, I was challenged with critical behavioral issues and unexpected experiences. I soon realized that my job as a parent was going to be filled with opportunities to raise my consciousness and work to “build” a stable emotional bridge to both my boys, no matter what I was personally experiencing.

This perceived obligation overrode all others and fortunately helped me dissolve the need to secure the emotional comfort I had before the boys were born; because it just can’t happen… nothing is exactly the same again. It took me quite some time to work through some considerable emotional confusion to realize this. However, I also did not have to undergo any chemical, physiological, or cellular changes. My experience was purely psychological.

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