Desire and Commitment: setting expectation

18 Aug

Setting expectations doesn’t even take that much time…it does take desire and commitment: two attributes that a healthy and valuable relations should share in any case.

In addition, it is most important that, when we have that discussion of expectations we do not solely fix our minds on our expectation of the other person. If our mindset is open and willing to accept something different, we have a better than even chance of growing the relationship and resetting it to present time and opportunity.

Entering a discussion like this can be intimidating if we are trying to defend or prove our position. If we approach it with an attitude of wanting to learn, any anxiety with regard to defending our behavior should relax. It is quite possible that each person’s expectations will be very much the same, and that by articulating them to eachother we can simply recommit and strengthen the relationship much as it was.

It is highly unlikely that an open and honest discussion of expectations would destroy an existing relationship. I have never had that experience to date.


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