Patience

6 Oct

Some behaviors, such as politeness and good manners can– and should– be learned within reasonable time periods. This depends on your child’s learning style and your teaching abilities. Often, it is a matter of trial and error until you get a clear idea of your child’s maturity level.

Generally, if I met considerable resistance to a behavior I was trying to instill, I would back off.

Most people believe that we “run out” of patience when we are overwhelmed. I believe that we simply run out of energy, which is different. We all run out of energy—especially when we have kids. But this is not an excuse to lose patience.

We should not marry these two ideas- when you do not have the energy to ask your kids to pick up their shoes one more time, then just don’t ask at that time. Let it go. Later, when you have regained some energy, try again. Exhaustion is a real experience and we have to know our limits. Our kids will accept this, and as long as our limits aren’t too puny, they will generally respect them.

Even in adult relationships we have to have patience, but we tend to be more accommodating in general. Why? I think it is easy to demand more from our kids because we are already doing so much for them, and we feel they owe us their attention in return. I imagine that if we did as much for an adult friend as we do for our children, we would expect much more in return. We cannot have these expectations of our children.

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