Below I’ve included a book review of the Dad Connection that solidifies why I wrote a book in the first place. As always, I am very appreciative of the feedback and thought I would share this readers experience with you:
“The Dad Connection is a parental guidebook about connecting with children. It was written by a dad who feels it is necessary and important to build bridges between parent and child so that a child can always make his/her way back to the parent without feeling smothered or controlled in any way. These connections will lead to a stronger, more secure parent/child bond that will last a lifetime.
I have read a large number of self- help books over the years including several on parenting but this book is very different from most in several important ways. First, this book doesn’t preach at parents and it doesn’t try to claim that its solutions are the only one that will work. I get really annoyed by self-help books that make arrogant claims, recommending their method as the only viable, surefire means to a better life. This book is not like that at all. The author fully admits that there is no such thing as a perfect solution to parental concerns and even offers examples where he behaved in a way that was not conducive to the positive child/parent relationship he prescribes. Second, the book is written in a conversational way and it speaks in general terms. It doesn’t try to offer specific solutions to problems, but instead presents an outline on what to do if your goal is better communication and a stronger parent/child bond.
This book includes some good anecdotes and input from the author’s own two sons. Any self- help book can make grandiose claims, but with this book, the reliability of the methods it prescribes is validated by the people who would best know their effectiveness: The authors own sons. They share with the reader their experience with their dad and they stand firmly on his side for effective parenting. I know that some who read this book may feel the author is being too much of a friend and that stricter discipline is necessary. But what the book promotes isn’t quite like that and regardless of how one chooses to describe it, the author’s own successful, happy sons are proof that their dad did do something right.
The Dad Connection is very good at explaining some common sense ways to connect better with kids and I like how the book debunks some of the common parental methods, procedures, sayings, etc., like the ever- popular “because I said so” and others. The book shows why these common methods are doomed to fail but it doesn’t stop there- it goes on to offer some better, more reliable alternatives. These parts of the book could be a little sensitive for some readers because they directly address common myths/methods that are not very useful and that can even backfire. The book is respectful, but some readers may still not like being told they are wrong.
This book is very straightforward book and I cannot imagine that anyone would disagree that showing respect, exercising patience, showing love, being tolerant of different ideas, etc. are good traits and are likely to benefit all. However, changing one’s parenting style and implementing what the book recommends will not be easy for everyone because some of us are very stubborn and are convinced that what we do works, even when all evidence suggests it does not. But even the book’s author will admit that what worked for him isn’t foolproof and there is no guarantee it will work for everyone, every time. Again, I like the humility and lack of arrogance. There is no single, works-every-time solution to parenting and I admire that the author admits what should be an obvious fact.
Raising kids is no simple undertaking but it can be made a little easier with good advice from someone who has been there, done that, and knows what works and what doesn’t. This is a very good book about treating kids with respect and building a bridge between them and you that will last all the way to the grave. Its advice is good, its processes are simple enough for anyone to follow, and it can apply to any parent, mom or dad. Give its recommendations a try, and improve your relationship starting today.”
- Bryan Carey, host at Monday Saving Parent and Amazon Top 1000 Reviewer.